Motivation is temporary; it gives a short burst of energy but it doesn't last. Positivity can hide the raw reality of a matter and reduce accountability. Positive motivation can be just the kick we need to help us, but after we are in-flight, we must have what it takes to go all the way.
Sometimes a change of scenery like a new relationship, new house or a new year can be positive motivation, but after a short while, it's still us having to deal with reality.
That's why resolutions die, because they aren't revolutions, a sustained change, a lifestyle change, an continuum no matter the circumstances.
Truth be told, we may the problem. We choose to get off the wagon when the ride slows down or when we don't lose the inches that we tried for.
As a trainer, I have to reiterate the message that it will require a lifestyle for clients to see the changes they desire. Plans and programs are like positive motivation, they get us along so far, but it's up to us to use what we've learned, make adjustments, and proceed.
We second-guess ourselves when it doesn't turn-out to be what we expected.
Though we may be the problem, we are also the solution.
We can decide that no matter how tough it gets, we are going to get better at getting better.
One of the hardest things I've ever done was learning to be cool when things didn't happen as I wished, whether or not I could control them.
I started by ignoring gas prices and just filled the tank without complaint. When my soccer team lost, I learned to continue being the comical and confident person I am when we win. When I make mistakes, I hold myself accountable and reassure those affected that I am working on the resolution. That, and doing so with an ease of heart so that I don't shut-down or sap the energy is how I had to change.
If your new year's resolution didn't last, it's not because of the money it costs, or the time it takes to get to the gym, it's because we didn't expect it to be a never-ending journey. We underestimated the goal. If our resolution wasn't a health goal, the same message applies.
We will always struggle when we don't hold ourselves accountable to adapting.
In many of my errors, I can recall a moment when my parents or my partner warned me, but I didn't listen. That's not the issue, the problem is when I don't listen the next time and failed because I didn't change or adjust.
When it comes to these fitnessers who buy a new membership or training program only to last one month then go along spotty until it's tossed aside for good, the only difference between them and those who succeed is accountability and adaptability. Knowing that life happens, but you still have to train, even on long and hard work days, even when family issues arise; that's the only way you'll see the results.
To think a new year resolution is the answer is to think just because a calendar changes it's supposed to change you.
Some college graduates may have thought that with a degree, the world would yield to them as their income & respect would increase, and their problems subside. It only proved that in order to be in a better state of well-being you have to do more than get the degree, you have to persist until you have achieved what you envisioned. You only persist when you adapt and accept that it may take much longer than you expected.
You have each and every day to make a better difference in your life. It will be tough, but we will break-through if we persist.
When we commit to changing, no matter the scenery, no matter the time of year, no matter who's with or against us is when we experience growth.
Blessed is the day that you can endure beyond your limits or imagination unto success, unto a greater peace and a deepened enlightenment. When you can, you will realize that you are in a lifestyle of change, a revolution of your self. You will realize that nothing can stop you, and that you're only going to adapt to getting better no matter what.